Do you ever feel like there is a weight on your shoulders, and that carrying it is so heavy you are bending under it? How about if you are carrying a weight that isn’t yours, but are carrying it for someone you love? They haven’t asked you to carry it, but because you love them, you do, trying to lift the weight off of them so that they can better bear it. It is easy to say that it isn’t your weight, so let it go, but that is what loving someone else is all about! Loving someone else means that you carry their burdens for them, or at least with them. Loving someone means that you don’t selfishly take care of your own needs at their expense, that you don’t walk away without fixing what is wrong, that you don’t jump to judgment without provocation and you certainly don’t issue ultimatums to get your own way. This isn’t love. It’s a selfish entitlement mentality that has no reward for self, or for anyone else. In the end everyone is miserable and sad, lives are ripped apart, relationships torn asunder and the damage that has been rendered is sometimes irreparable.
I know that this is a heavy way to start the day, but it’s a topic that has been filling my every thought as I watch someone I love with all of my heart bending under a burden too heavy to carry, yet there’s only so much I can do to help. I can offer my opinions, my advice and my support, but in the end, I cannot carry the burden and make things better. I can’t make the hurt go away, I can’t fix the cause of the hurt and for goodness sake, I can’t even say it will all be better soon because in the end, we don’t really know if it will be. Take a good long look at yourself. Are you pushing/pulling your way through life, forcing the ones you say you love along with you whether they want to go or not? Do you think of what YOU want and need before you think of what THEY want and need? Just so you know, this isn’t love. Love is wanting the best for the people in your life, and wanting their comfort, peace and happiness above all else. The reward for making this happen, unselfishly and without hesitation, is to feel that happiness in your own heart as they in turn do everything in their power to make you happy too. Please keep this in mind. If you have caused someone you profess to love tears and heartache, reevaluate where you are in life and if what you are doing is for yourself, or for someone else. If you are only being motivated by your own desires, causing pain to someone else because of them, there is a pretty good chance that you are being motivated by something that isn’t right at all. After days of tears, loss of sleep, trying desperately to help someone close to me and coming up very short (it would be awfully nice to come up with a miracle here), it just makes me wonder if there really are any people out there who desire only for the ones they love to be happy, and are willing to do right and selfless thing to make it happen. I can honestly say that they are out there . . . I happen to be married to one.
My husband moved here to my state because I have children and family here. He knows it would make me very sad to be away from my kids, so he has put his desires to live back in the mountains again on hold, so that we can be near to the ones I hold so dear. This is the type of selfless act I am talking about – he knows by doing what he, as a Godly husband should do, that I as his wife will do everything in my power to be the best wife I can possibly be. Does that mean we always see eye to eye? No, that’s a fairy tale that isn’t based in reality. No marriage is perfect or ever will be. What it does mean is that we do for each other in the very best way possible what we know God would want for us to do. Take a look around you – are you doing the best you can for the person you love? Are they doing the same for you? If not, perhaps today would be a good day to shuffle up your priorities and put them back into proper perspective. We could all use a bit of that in our lives, no matter whether we are facing turmoil or not, couldn’t we?
OK, sorry – enough of that for now. I’m sure we can find some happy thoughts if we put our minds to it . . .
Newspaper Carrier Day is celebrated on September 4th
International Newspaper Carrier Day is observed on varying dates, and is established by the Newspaper Association of America. This year it is on October 18, 2014. Newspaper carriers date back to the early 1800s, and today’s celebration commemorates the very first paper boy! On September 10, 1833, 10 year old Barney Flaherty became the first newspaper carrier. Benjamin Day, the publisher of The New York Sun, hired Barney to sell papers for his penny press. The only job requirement was to show that he could throw a newspaper into the bushes. Today, few kids deliver papers any more, except in small towns, but the “Carrier Day” tradition still lives on. This is a job that is done mostly by adults now, many delivering the paper from their cars. For anyone who thinks this is an easy job, it isn’t. Paper carriers are up in the wee hours of the morning to pick up the papers from the warehouse, and get them to their destinations before the residents wake up, so they can have their papers with their morning coffee. By the time we are getting out of bed, they are finishing up their work and many are going down for a rest! I know I would! To everyone who has a paper route, today is for you!
National Wildlife Day – I think we can all agree that endangered wildlife is something very worthy of bringing awareness to, not just in our own country, but all across the world. It’s also a day to acknowledge the zoos, sanctuaries, and preserves that educate the public about wildlife and how we can best protect it. Today is a really good day to go to the zoo, visit an animal sanctuary or preserve, or donate to a worthy cause that stands up for the rights of animals. We can all advocate for animals in our own way. That can be by rescuing unwanted pets, creating a safe place in your own backyard for bunnies, deer, squirrels, chipmunks or whatever little wildlife you have around your home, and sharing with other people how important it is to pick up litter, and do everything we can to create a pollution free environment for the creatures that depend on the land for their survival. Maybe you can take some time to go out on a nature walk today, while the air is still warm and the sun is out, and appreciate the beauty of your surroundings and see how many critters you can spot!
This Day In History –
1833 – Ten year old Barney Flaherty becomes the first Newspaper Carrier.
Food Celebration of the Day –
National Macadamia Nut Day – I love macadamia nuts. They have this rich and buttery texture that nearly melts in your mouth. No matter how wonderful peanuts, cashews or any other nut may be, the macadamia – the rarest nut, and supreme leader in the nut world – beats them all in my opinion. We all know how expensive these lovely, calorie and fat filled nuts are, but do we know why? Well, here’s a little information about the macadamia that I thought was really interesting. There are two main species of Macadamia Nut – the Macadamia integrifolia is a nut native to southeastern Queensland where it grows in the rain forests and close to streams, and the Macadamia tetraphylla is native to southeastern Queensland and northeastern New South Wales, growing in rain forests, in moist places and along stream banks. At the point where these two species meet, there are types that seem to be natural hybrids. In 1881 the macadamia was brought to Hawaii, where it was used as an ornamental plant, and for reforestation. The Hawaii Agricultural Experiment Station named and introduced several of their macadamia selections in 1948, and that led to the modern macadamia industry in Hawaii. In California two seedling macadamias were planted in the early 1880’s and are still standing on the Berkeley campus of the University of California. The importation of improved and named varieties into California from Hawaii began about 1950. Though the trees can deal with the cold down to about 23 degrees, the flower clusters that produce the nuts die off at about 28 degrees. One thing that I found to be interesting was that when grown in a large tub, macadamias make suitable container plants. Hmmmm. . . wonder where I can find one of those? A tree doesn’t produce nuts until it is 7 – 10 years old, and their rich buttery flavor and oil make them incredibly useful in many things from food to skin products. Clinical research has shown that eating 50-100 grams of macadamia nuts each day can reduce blood cholesterol by as much as 7%- 9% in four weeks. They are rich in vitamins A1, B1, B2, B5, B6 and E, as well as niacin and dietary fiber, and antioxidants that include polyphenols, amino acids, selenium and flavonols. One thing I didn’t know, but thought was really interesting, was that the macadamia shell can range from four to twelve inches long! I could go on and on even more, but suffice it to say that this is a pretty incredible nut! Here are some amazing looking recipes to enjoy. I admit, the Fish with Macadamia Butter Sauce looks awfully delicious.
- White Chocolate Chip Macadamia Nut Cookies
- Fish With Macadamia Butter Sauce
- Mini Mocha Macadamia Muffins
- Macadamia Chocolate Brownies With White Chocolate
- Avocado and Macadamia Nut Salad
- White Chocolate Macadamia Bars
- Savory Macadamia Nuts
As usual, when I finish the food celebration, I find myself craving whatever it is we are celebrating. Macadamia nuts are DEFINITELY NOT on my eating plan . . . but oh, they sound good! Love each other today, and every day. Where there is strife and discontent, try to put yourself into the place of the person you are struggling with, or about, and see if there can be a meeting of the minds. Compromise is the only way to make any relationship work, and where there can’t be compromise, there can’t be harmony. Heavy thoughts on this beautiful Thursday. God Bless You and I’ll see you tomorrow.